Cosmo dating rules
Let’s strip sexual activity of all it’s damaging implications and bring it back to what it is: just sex. And if that pep talk isn’t enough, how about this statistic?We’ve done the research and here it is, straight-up: There’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. A 2012 Singles in America survey found that 55 percent of singles reporting having had sex on the first date (66 percent of men; 44 percent of women).
And having sex on the first date shouldn’t negatively impact your chances of a long-term relationship. If you’re feeling hot and you want it, then you should have absolutely no qualms about going for it.Perhaps that skepticism is coming from your own insecurities about having sex."If you know that sleeping with someone won't bring out your best or will make you needy, it's a good idea to wait," says Andrea Syrtash, co-writer of the book, "It's Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked." "However, don't wait because you think the guy will lose respect or interest.All that matters is how much the couple like and are attracted to each other, which determines how many dates they have, and whether the guy calls back.It appears that the first-date-sex couples usually don't last because people don't know each other very well on first dates and they have a high rate of failure regardless of sex.
Remember too that men are pretty basic when it comes to dating and sex. As Jeff Wilser, co-author of "It's Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Other Rule of Dating, Debunked" tells Cosmo, “In the history of planet Earth, no guy has ever said, "She's awesome. She's sexy, and she's into 'Game of Thrones.' There's only one problem.…We hooked up on the first date."If you don’t have sex early on, the pressure to have it builds too greatly.